Be Present - Controlling your Social Media
To be in the present, to be mindful and to be connected doesn’t mean turn on all your social media notifications. We all hear the pundits talking about issues with social media and smart devices. The eSafety Commissioner has reported that young people have 5 different social media services. Understand social media uses notifications to get you to get your back online with every post, every emoji and message or update. Reachout Australia outlines the positives of being connected but recognises there are negatives such as being disconnected from the real world and spending too much time online. The eSafety Commissioner has even started to change the way we use devices with an amazing project to introduce safety by design project in 2019.
But what can we do now, while the community adjusts? Dr Judson Brewer, from Brown University’s Mindfulness Centre, said in a recent article there is a lot more to it than just putting down your smartphone. You need to prioritise what is happening around you and re-evaluate your reward value process.
How can you do this? Well it means the first step is to always remember you are not alone and this is challenging. You can leverage the expert help around you like to your school psychologist or counsellor.
Being present means you have awareness of what is happening around you. This means don’t take out that phone, don’t put it on the table upside down, leave the tablet in another room. Especially do not touch your phone while someone is talking to you. The eSafety Commissioner quick takes are:
- Turn off your social media notifications
- Use your phones internal screen time manager and do not disturb function.
- Use the phone built in features and examine how you are using your time. Remember looking at your phone for 5 hours a day adds up to about 74 days a year – time you can’t get back
- Unfollow accounts which make you feel bad
- Have a phone and social media free day
- Social media is not real life
- Talk to someone in real life and check out these services
To be mindful, according to Beyond Blue, look at what’s happening around you and train your attention and attitude. This takes practise and is not easy. You may have the sense of FOMO (fear of missing out) from not looking at your phone or social media, however you not will miss out on the present. You can catch up later and remember posts are often staged and misleading.
Being connected and mindful (real life) has additional benefits according to Beyond Blue:
- Reduces your stress, reduces negative thinking on upsetting things;
- Improves your focus and working memory; and
- Improves and more flexible problem-solving abilities.
Over time when people see you prioritising them over devices or social media you will be more connected with the people and community around you.
National Day of Action Against Bullying
Each year, schools across Australia join together to mark the National Day of Action against Bullying and Violence (NDA). This annual day provides a focus for schools to say Bullying. No Way! and to strengthen their everyday messages that bullying and violence at school are not okay at any time. The tenth NDA is being held on Friday 20 March 2020.
Schools can be much more effective when parents report bullying and support the School’s efforts to deal with it. If your child reports that bullying is occurring at school, or the bullying involves students from the School, but it has occurred outside of school, you should let the School know of the situation.
Working together with the School is the best way to help your child resolve bullying issues.
The School will work with you to resolve the situation and will also work with the other student's parents. Due to privacy laws, we will not be able to share information about any other students involved.
Ms Robyn Deer
Head of Senior